Day 31: Time of Your Life (10 of 10)
Write a code of conduct. Whatever happens in the outside world, write a code of conduct for yourself. I think most people do this internally. But there is a threshold for going against your code of conduct when it really hits the fan. So by knowing you have set a code of conduct for yourself on paper, you can always operate without giving into the situation and venting your anger, or getting overwhelmed. Anger or overwhelmed are polar opposites of the same reaction, but states you never really want to be in. That is just one example of the benefits of code of conduct. You can always be happy and operate effectively. There is tremendous reward and results from that.
On a side-note, what a incredible month! I thought about taking a break from AR, but looking back to what I said I was going to do for myself. Daily immerse myself with everything AR has to offer, and I'll reap the rewards in my life. And one month isn't long enough to condition a lifetime of behavior. You need at least 6 months of that. So I'll continue on to this journey.
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Saturday, March 31, 2012
Friday, March 30, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 30
Day 30: Time of Your Life (9 of 10)
Today's topic was all about problem solving/decision making.
I think one of the best skills that I have is my ability to solve problems. Doing Day 9 of "Time of Your Life", I felt that Tony Robbins' section on problem solving had great info. Traditionally, everyone learns how to solve problems just like how we learn the grammar of our native language. In other words, we don't learn the systems. We just base it on what sounds right, and what sounds wrong. And hopefully after years or decades of trial and error, you are making mostly right decisions through learning from trial and error. So when tough problems arise, we are not problem solving experts in the same way we are not grammer experts. We never learned the systems, and complex problems seem overwhelming. It overwhelms us, we put off the decision, or we just go back and fourth without making a decision. Unfortunately, what this leads to is indecision, which is probably the worst path you can take.
I felt the program gave great information on how to solve challenging problems. But I felt "The 6 Steps to Effective Decision Making: O.O.C. / E.M.R." could be improved on, for at least myself.
Precursor (Unchanged, just restating it from "Time of Your Life")
1. Decide you're going to solve this and know you can solve this because you've solved difficult problems in the past when you felt challenged beyond your comfort zone.
2. Get perspective from others who have successfully dealt with a similar problem before.
3. Know as you're doing something for the greater good, and that if you're committed, there is always a way.
4. List the resources available to you and constraints or limitations you may have.
Problem solving steps (Instead of doing O.O.C. / E.M.R.)
1. Define the current situation without any emotional bias.
2. If you can have everything you want your way, what do you want, and why do you want it?
3. Write your values (your rules on how you operate yourself as a person), and your identity, your ultimate vision of the person you want to become and how your life is going to be.
4. Write roles (responsibility towards others aka who others see me as a person).
5. Write down options (the decisions you can choose to make) and the benefits, and consequences.
6. For each consequence, find alternatives that neutralize the consequence (or even turn into benefits if possible) where the alternative is high probability and low risk.
Rewrite options, benefits, consequences. Repeat the process until the option cannot be improved any further. Put your brain to work while trying to incorporate your resources. Do this for every option.
7. Do any consequences conflict with your identity or ultimate vision of who you want to become or where you want your life to be at in the future? If so, are there any alternatives to the consequences? If there are no alternatives, eliminate the option.
8. Evaluate the options. Evaluate the benefits. EValuate the consequences (how it impacts your roles/responsibilities.) Are the effects of the consequnces, something that can be repaired in the future? If not, will this violation of the roles/responsibilities, block your path to the ultimate vision of you and your life? If yes, eliminate option.
9. Make decision on remaining options and cut off any other possibilities. Take action. If you do not take action, then you might as well not have made the decision at all.
Know that when you make tough decisions, you can't always make everyone happy and cater to every desire. Otherwise, it wouldn't be a tough decision. It would be a no brainer. There will have to be compromises and consequences when it comes to tough decisions. A good decision is to find a solution to meet all absolute musts, minimize consequences, not violate your values (this is very important), and take no irreversible damage to your responsibilities/roles that is going to serve you in your ultimate vision in the future. A great decision is all of the above and find the maximum the benefits from the decision. The worst thing to do is to not make any decision when a decision has to be made.
Next: Time of Your Life (10 of 10)
Today's topic was all about problem solving/decision making.
I think one of the best skills that I have is my ability to solve problems. Doing Day 9 of "Time of Your Life", I felt that Tony Robbins' section on problem solving had great info. Traditionally, everyone learns how to solve problems just like how we learn the grammar of our native language. In other words, we don't learn the systems. We just base it on what sounds right, and what sounds wrong. And hopefully after years or decades of trial and error, you are making mostly right decisions through learning from trial and error. So when tough problems arise, we are not problem solving experts in the same way we are not grammer experts. We never learned the systems, and complex problems seem overwhelming. It overwhelms us, we put off the decision, or we just go back and fourth without making a decision. Unfortunately, what this leads to is indecision, which is probably the worst path you can take.
I felt the program gave great information on how to solve challenging problems. But I felt "The 6 Steps to Effective Decision Making: O.O.C. / E.M.R." could be improved on, for at least myself.
Precursor (Unchanged, just restating it from "Time of Your Life")
1. Decide you're going to solve this and know you can solve this because you've solved difficult problems in the past when you felt challenged beyond your comfort zone.
2. Get perspective from others who have successfully dealt with a similar problem before.
3. Know as you're doing something for the greater good, and that if you're committed, there is always a way.
4. List the resources available to you and constraints or limitations you may have.
Problem solving steps (Instead of doing O.O.C. / E.M.R.)
1. Define the current situation without any emotional bias.
2. If you can have everything you want your way, what do you want, and why do you want it?
3. Write your values (your rules on how you operate yourself as a person), and your identity, your ultimate vision of the person you want to become and how your life is going to be.
4. Write roles (responsibility towards others aka who others see me as a person).
5. Write down options (the decisions you can choose to make) and the benefits, and consequences.
6. For each consequence, find alternatives that neutralize the consequence (or even turn into benefits if possible) where the alternative is high probability and low risk.
Rewrite options, benefits, consequences. Repeat the process until the option cannot be improved any further. Put your brain to work while trying to incorporate your resources. Do this for every option.
7. Do any consequences conflict with your identity or ultimate vision of who you want to become or where you want your life to be at in the future? If so, are there any alternatives to the consequences? If there are no alternatives, eliminate the option.
8. Evaluate the options. Evaluate the benefits. EValuate the consequences (how it impacts your roles/responsibilities.) Are the effects of the consequnces, something that can be repaired in the future? If not, will this violation of the roles/responsibilities, block your path to the ultimate vision of you and your life? If yes, eliminate option.
9. Make decision on remaining options and cut off any other possibilities. Take action. If you do not take action, then you might as well not have made the decision at all.
Know that when you make tough decisions, you can't always make everyone happy and cater to every desire. Otherwise, it wouldn't be a tough decision. It would be a no brainer. There will have to be compromises and consequences when it comes to tough decisions. A good decision is to find a solution to meet all absolute musts, minimize consequences, not violate your values (this is very important), and take no irreversible damage to your responsibilities/roles that is going to serve you in your ultimate vision in the future. A great decision is all of the above and find the maximum the benefits from the decision. The worst thing to do is to not make any decision when a decision has to be made.
Next: Time of Your Life (10 of 10)
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 29
Day 29: Time of Your Life (8 of 10)
Before you start planning your day, get centered. Who are you. Who do you want to become. Your values and code of conduct. Then after that, review your 1 year, 3 month goals. Then review your roles. Then plan. Have at least 3 professional and 2 personal must outcomes, and only schedule those. The less critical outcomes will be scheduled the night before. Anticipate problems and plan those so you can succeed no matter what comes up.
Next: Time of Your Life (9 of 10)
Before you start planning your day, get centered. Who are you. Who do you want to become. Your values and code of conduct. Then after that, review your 1 year, 3 month goals. Then review your roles. Then plan. Have at least 3 professional and 2 personal must outcomes, and only schedule those. The less critical outcomes will be scheduled the night before. Anticipate problems and plan those so you can succeed no matter what comes up.
Next: Time of Your Life (9 of 10)
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 27-28
Day 27-28: Time of Your Life (6,7 of 10)
This day was all about using the OPA/RPM Life Planner. The planner is great. On a typical planner, you write down your to do lists, and it feels great at first that you are organizing your life. But a typical to-do list is daunting, sometimes overwhelming because the list is endless, and more importantly, there is no emotion behind anything you're doing. For example, say you wanted to create a postcard campaign for your business. You just write "design postcard", you are forgetting the purpose behind your action. And you won't be motivated to do it. And even if you did it, it won't be the best postcard you could have made because you forgot your purpose.
I can say that I can absolutely relate to that because I've had a few planners here and there. You get this neat little black book. You open it, it has all these tabs, and you feel like "wow, this is going to make my life better." A day later, you stop using it because you either forget about it.
I can say that I've been using my RPM Life Planner for a week now. And that is the longest I've consistently used a planner.
And the last thing that is mentioned is that, incorporating a new system like this in your life (or any planner) takes some dedication. It might take an hour a day right now, but it may only take you a few minutes later to do the same amount of planning. I know this to be absolutely true. I'll reflect back on the time when I took a year off to teach English for a year. To prep for 6 hours of lessons, I took about 2 hours to prep. After 6 months in, it took 20 minutes to do the same prep that took me 2 hours. So I know what he's saying is true. Dedicate myself to planning my life for a few months, reap the rewards and continue to reap the rewards for fraction of the input.
Next: Time of Your Life (8 of 10)
This day was all about using the OPA/RPM Life Planner. The planner is great. On a typical planner, you write down your to do lists, and it feels great at first that you are organizing your life. But a typical to-do list is daunting, sometimes overwhelming because the list is endless, and more importantly, there is no emotion behind anything you're doing. For example, say you wanted to create a postcard campaign for your business. You just write "design postcard", you are forgetting the purpose behind your action. And you won't be motivated to do it. And even if you did it, it won't be the best postcard you could have made because you forgot your purpose.
I can say that I can absolutely relate to that because I've had a few planners here and there. You get this neat little black book. You open it, it has all these tabs, and you feel like "wow, this is going to make my life better." A day later, you stop using it because you either forget about it.
I can say that I've been using my RPM Life Planner for a week now. And that is the longest I've consistently used a planner.
And the last thing that is mentioned is that, incorporating a new system like this in your life (or any planner) takes some dedication. It might take an hour a day right now, but it may only take you a few minutes later to do the same amount of planning. I know this to be absolutely true. I'll reflect back on the time when I took a year off to teach English for a year. To prep for 6 hours of lessons, I took about 2 hours to prep. After 6 months in, it took 20 minutes to do the same prep that took me 2 hours. So I know what he's saying is true. Dedicate myself to planning my life for a few months, reap the rewards and continue to reap the rewards for fraction of the input.
Next: Time of Your Life (8 of 10)
Monday, March 26, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 26
Day 26: Time of Your Life (5 of 10)
When you think of something you "should" do, we tend to over-think the details. For example, when you know you "should" start working out, we start imagining getting off work, the traffic we're going to be stuck in, getting to the gym, fighting for a parking spot, then going to go get changed, then warming up, then stretching, then working out, then showering, then driving back, but before you do that you need to go shopping for a gym bag because you haven't seen that darn thing forever. And when you taken something that should be one simple task of going to the gym for 1-1.5 hours, you've overwhelmed yourself before you even got to the gym. Instead, "chunk" it into one outcome. Make it seem easy, because it is. Even when tasks require many steps, when you make seem hard things easy, with momentum on your side, you will accomplish that task and people will be asking you "man, how did you find the time to do that?" And your answer would be, "I don't know. I just did it. It was easy."
Next: Time of Your Life (6 of 10)
When you think of something you "should" do, we tend to over-think the details. For example, when you know you "should" start working out, we start imagining getting off work, the traffic we're going to be stuck in, getting to the gym, fighting for a parking spot, then going to go get changed, then warming up, then stretching, then working out, then showering, then driving back, but before you do that you need to go shopping for a gym bag because you haven't seen that darn thing forever. And when you taken something that should be one simple task of going to the gym for 1-1.5 hours, you've overwhelmed yourself before you even got to the gym. Instead, "chunk" it into one outcome. Make it seem easy, because it is. Even when tasks require many steps, when you make seem hard things easy, with momentum on your side, you will accomplish that task and people will be asking you "man, how did you find the time to do that?" And your answer would be, "I don't know. I just did it. It was easy."
Next: Time of Your Life (6 of 10)
Sunday, March 25, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 25
Day 25: Time of Your Life (4 of 10)
Today, it was about two things. There is a success cycle where when it comes to getting things done, you can either be in a downward cycle or upward cycle. In other words, the rich get richer, and poor get poorer. Not just financially, but in potential, action, results, and beliefs.
Basically, look at 2 types of people. The successful. They have been successful before. So they know they can do something they have already done and are confident about doing something that they haven't done. So with the confidence they go out and do it. And of course, their confidence and action often leads to positive results. And then they are even more confident for the next thing they do. And This cycle just keeps on building on itself. It is a great cycle to be in.
Let's look at the people who have experienced a couple of failures in a row. Because they failed the last few tasks, they don't feel confident, so they take less action, and of course you get less results. And you get less confident until you are feeling like you just can't anything done, so you don't even try. So you have no results. So you are just not doing anything. And so that you escape the feeling of insignificance, you find things to occupy the mind and make things that have nothing to do with your future your primary focus.
How can you change you downward spiral to an upward spiral? AR offers a simple solution. Just experience the success emotionally before you accomplish it. Reality is the experience, and if you can imagine clear enough, your body won't know the difference.
There is a powerful message here. I've been doing AR's Hour of Power here and there. I know how amazing I can feel by the end of it. And I've been using it as a tool to make my self feel better, or get motivated for a moment. But I should really do it everyday for the success cycle.
The other message was we shouldn't try to be just good in today's society. Even being great doesn't cut it anymore. We should all try to be outstanding in everything we do. Set that standard for yourself.
Next: Time of Your Life (5 of 10)
Today, it was about two things. There is a success cycle where when it comes to getting things done, you can either be in a downward cycle or upward cycle. In other words, the rich get richer, and poor get poorer. Not just financially, but in potential, action, results, and beliefs.
Basically, look at 2 types of people. The successful. They have been successful before. So they know they can do something they have already done and are confident about doing something that they haven't done. So with the confidence they go out and do it. And of course, their confidence and action often leads to positive results. And then they are even more confident for the next thing they do. And This cycle just keeps on building on itself. It is a great cycle to be in.
Let's look at the people who have experienced a couple of failures in a row. Because they failed the last few tasks, they don't feel confident, so they take less action, and of course you get less results. And you get less confident until you are feeling like you just can't anything done, so you don't even try. So you have no results. So you are just not doing anything. And so that you escape the feeling of insignificance, you find things to occupy the mind and make things that have nothing to do with your future your primary focus.
How can you change you downward spiral to an upward spiral? AR offers a simple solution. Just experience the success emotionally before you accomplish it. Reality is the experience, and if you can imagine clear enough, your body won't know the difference.
There is a powerful message here. I've been doing AR's Hour of Power here and there. I know how amazing I can feel by the end of it. And I've been using it as a tool to make my self feel better, or get motivated for a moment. But I should really do it everyday for the success cycle.
The other message was we shouldn't try to be just good in today's society. Even being great doesn't cut it anymore. We should all try to be outstanding in everything we do. Set that standard for yourself.
Next: Time of Your Life (5 of 10)
Saturday, March 24, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 24
Day 24: Time of Your Life (3 of 10)
In life, you have roles for yourself and others. Your roles may be something like father, son, brother, leader, protector, strategist, etc. You can trace every action you take to a role that you've placed on yourself. The message is, instead of being focused only in the action, get behind the reason why you're doing it so that you plan it better, become more well rounded in tasks you're missing out, and do it with more passion. First you must change your perspective on your roles if you are viewing it in a negative way. For example, you might have a label for yourself as "the pincushion for everyone's problems." Instead, create an empowering labels for these roles so you are excited about the tasks at hand. Instead of the pincushion, be a "lifter of the human spirit".
Tomorrow is a continuation of what to do with these roles. Excited about what's coming up next.
Next: Time of Your Life (4 of 10)
In life, you have roles for yourself and others. Your roles may be something like father, son, brother, leader, protector, strategist, etc. You can trace every action you take to a role that you've placed on yourself. The message is, instead of being focused only in the action, get behind the reason why you're doing it so that you plan it better, become more well rounded in tasks you're missing out, and do it with more passion. First you must change your perspective on your roles if you are viewing it in a negative way. For example, you might have a label for yourself as "the pincushion for everyone's problems." Instead, create an empowering labels for these roles so you are excited about the tasks at hand. Instead of the pincushion, be a "lifter of the human spirit".
Tomorrow is a continuation of what to do with these roles. Excited about what's coming up next.
Next: Time of Your Life (4 of 10)
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