Day 31: Time of Your Life (10 of 10)
Write a code of conduct. Whatever happens in the outside world, write a code of conduct for yourself. I think most people do this internally. But there is a threshold for going against your code of conduct when it really hits the fan. So by knowing you have set a code of conduct for yourself on paper, you can always operate without giving into the situation and venting your anger, or getting overwhelmed. Anger or overwhelmed are polar opposites of the same reaction, but states you never really want to be in. That is just one example of the benefits of code of conduct. You can always be happy and operate effectively. There is tremendous reward and results from that.
On a side-note, what a incredible month! I thought about taking a break from AR, but looking back to what I said I was going to do for myself. Daily immerse myself with everything AR has to offer, and I'll reap the rewards in my life. And one month isn't long enough to condition a lifetime of behavior. You need at least 6 months of that. So I'll continue on to this journey.
Next: Financial Freedom (Audio)
Saturday, March 31, 2012
Friday, March 30, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 30
Day 30: Time of Your Life (9 of 10)
Today's topic was all about problem solving/decision making.
I think one of the best skills that I have is my ability to solve problems. Doing Day 9 of "Time of Your Life", I felt that Tony Robbins' section on problem solving had great info. Traditionally, everyone learns how to solve problems just like how we learn the grammar of our native language. In other words, we don't learn the systems. We just base it on what sounds right, and what sounds wrong. And hopefully after years or decades of trial and error, you are making mostly right decisions through learning from trial and error. So when tough problems arise, we are not problem solving experts in the same way we are not grammer experts. We never learned the systems, and complex problems seem overwhelming. It overwhelms us, we put off the decision, or we just go back and fourth without making a decision. Unfortunately, what this leads to is indecision, which is probably the worst path you can take.
I felt the program gave great information on how to solve challenging problems. But I felt "The 6 Steps to Effective Decision Making: O.O.C. / E.M.R." could be improved on, for at least myself.
Precursor (Unchanged, just restating it from "Time of Your Life")
1. Decide you're going to solve this and know you can solve this because you've solved difficult problems in the past when you felt challenged beyond your comfort zone.
2. Get perspective from others who have successfully dealt with a similar problem before.
3. Know as you're doing something for the greater good, and that if you're committed, there is always a way.
4. List the resources available to you and constraints or limitations you may have.
Problem solving steps (Instead of doing O.O.C. / E.M.R.)
1. Define the current situation without any emotional bias.
2. If you can have everything you want your way, what do you want, and why do you want it?
3. Write your values (your rules on how you operate yourself as a person), and your identity, your ultimate vision of the person you want to become and how your life is going to be.
4. Write roles (responsibility towards others aka who others see me as a person).
5. Write down options (the decisions you can choose to make) and the benefits, and consequences.
6. For each consequence, find alternatives that neutralize the consequence (or even turn into benefits if possible) where the alternative is high probability and low risk.
Rewrite options, benefits, consequences. Repeat the process until the option cannot be improved any further. Put your brain to work while trying to incorporate your resources. Do this for every option.
7. Do any consequences conflict with your identity or ultimate vision of who you want to become or where you want your life to be at in the future? If so, are there any alternatives to the consequences? If there are no alternatives, eliminate the option.
8. Evaluate the options. Evaluate the benefits. EValuate the consequences (how it impacts your roles/responsibilities.) Are the effects of the consequnces, something that can be repaired in the future? If not, will this violation of the roles/responsibilities, block your path to the ultimate vision of you and your life? If yes, eliminate option.
9. Make decision on remaining options and cut off any other possibilities. Take action. If you do not take action, then you might as well not have made the decision at all.
Know that when you make tough decisions, you can't always make everyone happy and cater to every desire. Otherwise, it wouldn't be a tough decision. It would be a no brainer. There will have to be compromises and consequences when it comes to tough decisions. A good decision is to find a solution to meet all absolute musts, minimize consequences, not violate your values (this is very important), and take no irreversible damage to your responsibilities/roles that is going to serve you in your ultimate vision in the future. A great decision is all of the above and find the maximum the benefits from the decision. The worst thing to do is to not make any decision when a decision has to be made.
Next: Time of Your Life (10 of 10)
Today's topic was all about problem solving/decision making.
I think one of the best skills that I have is my ability to solve problems. Doing Day 9 of "Time of Your Life", I felt that Tony Robbins' section on problem solving had great info. Traditionally, everyone learns how to solve problems just like how we learn the grammar of our native language. In other words, we don't learn the systems. We just base it on what sounds right, and what sounds wrong. And hopefully after years or decades of trial and error, you are making mostly right decisions through learning from trial and error. So when tough problems arise, we are not problem solving experts in the same way we are not grammer experts. We never learned the systems, and complex problems seem overwhelming. It overwhelms us, we put off the decision, or we just go back and fourth without making a decision. Unfortunately, what this leads to is indecision, which is probably the worst path you can take.
I felt the program gave great information on how to solve challenging problems. But I felt "The 6 Steps to Effective Decision Making: O.O.C. / E.M.R." could be improved on, for at least myself.
Precursor (Unchanged, just restating it from "Time of Your Life")
1. Decide you're going to solve this and know you can solve this because you've solved difficult problems in the past when you felt challenged beyond your comfort zone.
2. Get perspective from others who have successfully dealt with a similar problem before.
3. Know as you're doing something for the greater good, and that if you're committed, there is always a way.
4. List the resources available to you and constraints or limitations you may have.
Problem solving steps (Instead of doing O.O.C. / E.M.R.)
1. Define the current situation without any emotional bias.
2. If you can have everything you want your way, what do you want, and why do you want it?
3. Write your values (your rules on how you operate yourself as a person), and your identity, your ultimate vision of the person you want to become and how your life is going to be.
4. Write roles (responsibility towards others aka who others see me as a person).
5. Write down options (the decisions you can choose to make) and the benefits, and consequences.
6. For each consequence, find alternatives that neutralize the consequence (or even turn into benefits if possible) where the alternative is high probability and low risk.
Rewrite options, benefits, consequences. Repeat the process until the option cannot be improved any further. Put your brain to work while trying to incorporate your resources. Do this for every option.
7. Do any consequences conflict with your identity or ultimate vision of who you want to become or where you want your life to be at in the future? If so, are there any alternatives to the consequences? If there are no alternatives, eliminate the option.
8. Evaluate the options. Evaluate the benefits. EValuate the consequences (how it impacts your roles/responsibilities.) Are the effects of the consequnces, something that can be repaired in the future? If not, will this violation of the roles/responsibilities, block your path to the ultimate vision of you and your life? If yes, eliminate option.
9. Make decision on remaining options and cut off any other possibilities. Take action. If you do not take action, then you might as well not have made the decision at all.
Know that when you make tough decisions, you can't always make everyone happy and cater to every desire. Otherwise, it wouldn't be a tough decision. It would be a no brainer. There will have to be compromises and consequences when it comes to tough decisions. A good decision is to find a solution to meet all absolute musts, minimize consequences, not violate your values (this is very important), and take no irreversible damage to your responsibilities/roles that is going to serve you in your ultimate vision in the future. A great decision is all of the above and find the maximum the benefits from the decision. The worst thing to do is to not make any decision when a decision has to be made.
Next: Time of Your Life (10 of 10)
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 29
Day 29: Time of Your Life (8 of 10)
Before you start planning your day, get centered. Who are you. Who do you want to become. Your values and code of conduct. Then after that, review your 1 year, 3 month goals. Then review your roles. Then plan. Have at least 3 professional and 2 personal must outcomes, and only schedule those. The less critical outcomes will be scheduled the night before. Anticipate problems and plan those so you can succeed no matter what comes up.
Next: Time of Your Life (9 of 10)
Before you start planning your day, get centered. Who are you. Who do you want to become. Your values and code of conduct. Then after that, review your 1 year, 3 month goals. Then review your roles. Then plan. Have at least 3 professional and 2 personal must outcomes, and only schedule those. The less critical outcomes will be scheduled the night before. Anticipate problems and plan those so you can succeed no matter what comes up.
Next: Time of Your Life (9 of 10)
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 27-28
Day 27-28: Time of Your Life (6,7 of 10)
This day was all about using the OPA/RPM Life Planner. The planner is great. On a typical planner, you write down your to do lists, and it feels great at first that you are organizing your life. But a typical to-do list is daunting, sometimes overwhelming because the list is endless, and more importantly, there is no emotion behind anything you're doing. For example, say you wanted to create a postcard campaign for your business. You just write "design postcard", you are forgetting the purpose behind your action. And you won't be motivated to do it. And even if you did it, it won't be the best postcard you could have made because you forgot your purpose.
I can say that I can absolutely relate to that because I've had a few planners here and there. You get this neat little black book. You open it, it has all these tabs, and you feel like "wow, this is going to make my life better." A day later, you stop using it because you either forget about it.
I can say that I've been using my RPM Life Planner for a week now. And that is the longest I've consistently used a planner.
And the last thing that is mentioned is that, incorporating a new system like this in your life (or any planner) takes some dedication. It might take an hour a day right now, but it may only take you a few minutes later to do the same amount of planning. I know this to be absolutely true. I'll reflect back on the time when I took a year off to teach English for a year. To prep for 6 hours of lessons, I took about 2 hours to prep. After 6 months in, it took 20 minutes to do the same prep that took me 2 hours. So I know what he's saying is true. Dedicate myself to planning my life for a few months, reap the rewards and continue to reap the rewards for fraction of the input.
Next: Time of Your Life (8 of 10)
This day was all about using the OPA/RPM Life Planner. The planner is great. On a typical planner, you write down your to do lists, and it feels great at first that you are organizing your life. But a typical to-do list is daunting, sometimes overwhelming because the list is endless, and more importantly, there is no emotion behind anything you're doing. For example, say you wanted to create a postcard campaign for your business. You just write "design postcard", you are forgetting the purpose behind your action. And you won't be motivated to do it. And even if you did it, it won't be the best postcard you could have made because you forgot your purpose.
I can say that I can absolutely relate to that because I've had a few planners here and there. You get this neat little black book. You open it, it has all these tabs, and you feel like "wow, this is going to make my life better." A day later, you stop using it because you either forget about it.
I can say that I've been using my RPM Life Planner for a week now. And that is the longest I've consistently used a planner.
And the last thing that is mentioned is that, incorporating a new system like this in your life (or any planner) takes some dedication. It might take an hour a day right now, but it may only take you a few minutes later to do the same amount of planning. I know this to be absolutely true. I'll reflect back on the time when I took a year off to teach English for a year. To prep for 6 hours of lessons, I took about 2 hours to prep. After 6 months in, it took 20 minutes to do the same prep that took me 2 hours. So I know what he's saying is true. Dedicate myself to planning my life for a few months, reap the rewards and continue to reap the rewards for fraction of the input.
Next: Time of Your Life (8 of 10)
Monday, March 26, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 26
Day 26: Time of Your Life (5 of 10)
When you think of something you "should" do, we tend to over-think the details. For example, when you know you "should" start working out, we start imagining getting off work, the traffic we're going to be stuck in, getting to the gym, fighting for a parking spot, then going to go get changed, then warming up, then stretching, then working out, then showering, then driving back, but before you do that you need to go shopping for a gym bag because you haven't seen that darn thing forever. And when you taken something that should be one simple task of going to the gym for 1-1.5 hours, you've overwhelmed yourself before you even got to the gym. Instead, "chunk" it into one outcome. Make it seem easy, because it is. Even when tasks require many steps, when you make seem hard things easy, with momentum on your side, you will accomplish that task and people will be asking you "man, how did you find the time to do that?" And your answer would be, "I don't know. I just did it. It was easy."
Next: Time of Your Life (6 of 10)
When you think of something you "should" do, we tend to over-think the details. For example, when you know you "should" start working out, we start imagining getting off work, the traffic we're going to be stuck in, getting to the gym, fighting for a parking spot, then going to go get changed, then warming up, then stretching, then working out, then showering, then driving back, but before you do that you need to go shopping for a gym bag because you haven't seen that darn thing forever. And when you taken something that should be one simple task of going to the gym for 1-1.5 hours, you've overwhelmed yourself before you even got to the gym. Instead, "chunk" it into one outcome. Make it seem easy, because it is. Even when tasks require many steps, when you make seem hard things easy, with momentum on your side, you will accomplish that task and people will be asking you "man, how did you find the time to do that?" And your answer would be, "I don't know. I just did it. It was easy."
Next: Time of Your Life (6 of 10)
Sunday, March 25, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 25
Day 25: Time of Your Life (4 of 10)
Today, it was about two things. There is a success cycle where when it comes to getting things done, you can either be in a downward cycle or upward cycle. In other words, the rich get richer, and poor get poorer. Not just financially, but in potential, action, results, and beliefs.
Basically, look at 2 types of people. The successful. They have been successful before. So they know they can do something they have already done and are confident about doing something that they haven't done. So with the confidence they go out and do it. And of course, their confidence and action often leads to positive results. And then they are even more confident for the next thing they do. And This cycle just keeps on building on itself. It is a great cycle to be in.
Let's look at the people who have experienced a couple of failures in a row. Because they failed the last few tasks, they don't feel confident, so they take less action, and of course you get less results. And you get less confident until you are feeling like you just can't anything done, so you don't even try. So you have no results. So you are just not doing anything. And so that you escape the feeling of insignificance, you find things to occupy the mind and make things that have nothing to do with your future your primary focus.
How can you change you downward spiral to an upward spiral? AR offers a simple solution. Just experience the success emotionally before you accomplish it. Reality is the experience, and if you can imagine clear enough, your body won't know the difference.
There is a powerful message here. I've been doing AR's Hour of Power here and there. I know how amazing I can feel by the end of it. And I've been using it as a tool to make my self feel better, or get motivated for a moment. But I should really do it everyday for the success cycle.
The other message was we shouldn't try to be just good in today's society. Even being great doesn't cut it anymore. We should all try to be outstanding in everything we do. Set that standard for yourself.
Next: Time of Your Life (5 of 10)
Today, it was about two things. There is a success cycle where when it comes to getting things done, you can either be in a downward cycle or upward cycle. In other words, the rich get richer, and poor get poorer. Not just financially, but in potential, action, results, and beliefs.
Basically, look at 2 types of people. The successful. They have been successful before. So they know they can do something they have already done and are confident about doing something that they haven't done. So with the confidence they go out and do it. And of course, their confidence and action often leads to positive results. And then they are even more confident for the next thing they do. And This cycle just keeps on building on itself. It is a great cycle to be in.
Let's look at the people who have experienced a couple of failures in a row. Because they failed the last few tasks, they don't feel confident, so they take less action, and of course you get less results. And you get less confident until you are feeling like you just can't anything done, so you don't even try. So you have no results. So you are just not doing anything. And so that you escape the feeling of insignificance, you find things to occupy the mind and make things that have nothing to do with your future your primary focus.
How can you change you downward spiral to an upward spiral? AR offers a simple solution. Just experience the success emotionally before you accomplish it. Reality is the experience, and if you can imagine clear enough, your body won't know the difference.
There is a powerful message here. I've been doing AR's Hour of Power here and there. I know how amazing I can feel by the end of it. And I've been using it as a tool to make my self feel better, or get motivated for a moment. But I should really do it everyday for the success cycle.
The other message was we shouldn't try to be just good in today's society. Even being great doesn't cut it anymore. We should all try to be outstanding in everything we do. Set that standard for yourself.
Next: Time of Your Life (5 of 10)
Saturday, March 24, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 24
Day 24: Time of Your Life (3 of 10)
In life, you have roles for yourself and others. Your roles may be something like father, son, brother, leader, protector, strategist, etc. You can trace every action you take to a role that you've placed on yourself. The message is, instead of being focused only in the action, get behind the reason why you're doing it so that you plan it better, become more well rounded in tasks you're missing out, and do it with more passion. First you must change your perspective on your roles if you are viewing it in a negative way. For example, you might have a label for yourself as "the pincushion for everyone's problems." Instead, create an empowering labels for these roles so you are excited about the tasks at hand. Instead of the pincushion, be a "lifter of the human spirit".
Tomorrow is a continuation of what to do with these roles. Excited about what's coming up next.
Next: Time of Your Life (4 of 10)
In life, you have roles for yourself and others. Your roles may be something like father, son, brother, leader, protector, strategist, etc. You can trace every action you take to a role that you've placed on yourself. The message is, instead of being focused only in the action, get behind the reason why you're doing it so that you plan it better, become more well rounded in tasks you're missing out, and do it with more passion. First you must change your perspective on your roles if you are viewing it in a negative way. For example, you might have a label for yourself as "the pincushion for everyone's problems." Instead, create an empowering labels for these roles so you are excited about the tasks at hand. Instead of the pincushion, be a "lifter of the human spirit".
Tomorrow is a continuation of what to do with these roles. Excited about what's coming up next.
Next: Time of Your Life (4 of 10)
Friday, March 23, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 23
Day 23: Time of Your Life (2 of 10)
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
28. You can't build on failure. You can only build on success.
Next: Time of Your Life (3 of 10)
I think this session was valuable, but it could have been done a few minutes. Probably didn't need the whole 90 minutes. The first message was, stop spending your time on things that are not important. Sometimes, you trick yourself thinking it is important when it's not because you're in reaction to the urgency. Don't get seduced by urgency. If you want to live without stress, be proactive. Do things that are important but not urgent. This way, when important and urgent things come up, you have the time and energy to devote to the emergency.
The second message is spending time on things you cannot control. For example, dwelling on the past, or things/people you can't influence. Don't do it because it is a pure waste of your time and energy. A good use of your time is spending time on things you can and want to influence, and things you have control over. The most efficient use of your time is spending time in things you control because it is something you can decide to do and just do it.
The overall message is, if you want more time, you can have it by not wasting time on things that don't matter or that you cannot control. Now did that take 90 minutes to explain? No, maybe...although there will be some listeners that Anthony Robbins has a lot of influence over, and there are some that he has little influence over. And to influence the most amount of possible, he has to take the time.
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
28. You can't build on failure. You can only build on success.
Next: Time of Your Life (3 of 10)
Thursday, March 22, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 22
Day 22: Time of Your Life (1 of 10)
This entire 90 minute session was all about power of focus. There is some NLP mixed in there. I've practiced envisioning the future, and made sure it was the brightest and clearest as possible, and it is a good technique. But I've realized that I don't do it as much as I should. I used to do this a lot and it would motivate me and made sure my end product was the highest quality I could produce. Another thing about the power of focus is that even though the focus he's talking about is what you're paying attention to in your mind or in the physical world, he's also talking about what you're working on improving.
Focus = The part of your life that you're working on improving. For example: "What are you focusing on your life right now? Career? Family?"
Focus = What you are thinking about/concentrating on at the moment. For example: "Today is a beautiful day. It is a privilege to live in this city and enjoy the warmth of the sun."
Master these to aspects of focus, and you make maximum use of your time. Anyone would rather have 10 seconds of pure enjoyment after working hard 10 hours that day, rather than 10 hours of wasted time. If you asked the person that worked hard all day, how the day was, the person would probably say fantastic, if they chose to focus on the 10 seconds of pure enjoyment they experienced. And that acknowledgement alone, would probably carry that person's mood positively, throughout the day. And could it be that the person that got the 10 seconds of pure enjoyment, focused on his outcome, so that the 10 hours of felt like less than an hour. And because this person is great at focusing on the right things, he feels fulfilled for having a day where something good that happened that may even contribute to his growth as a person. In contrast, look at the person that wasted 10 hours sitting at his desk. He probably had a terrible day, because all he can remember is how long the 10 hours of doing nothing felt. And how the 10 hours felt like 20 hours because he was staring at the clock all day. And because he could not focus his energy at an activity, he makes no progress in anything and is not fulfilled. I know I'm just rambling, but wow, I understand why focus matters so much. It is everything from how you're making yourself feel now, later, and in the future.
So what I can take away from this is a question for myself.
What can I focus on right now to make myself feel great now, later, and in the future? I should be working for Tony Robbins. :)
Next: Time of Your Life (2 of 10)
This entire 90 minute session was all about power of focus. There is some NLP mixed in there. I've practiced envisioning the future, and made sure it was the brightest and clearest as possible, and it is a good technique. But I've realized that I don't do it as much as I should. I used to do this a lot and it would motivate me and made sure my end product was the highest quality I could produce. Another thing about the power of focus is that even though the focus he's talking about is what you're paying attention to in your mind or in the physical world, he's also talking about what you're working on improving.
Focus = The part of your life that you're working on improving. For example: "What are you focusing on your life right now? Career? Family?"
Focus = What you are thinking about/concentrating on at the moment. For example: "Today is a beautiful day. It is a privilege to live in this city and enjoy the warmth of the sun."
Master these to aspects of focus, and you make maximum use of your time. Anyone would rather have 10 seconds of pure enjoyment after working hard 10 hours that day, rather than 10 hours of wasted time. If you asked the person that worked hard all day, how the day was, the person would probably say fantastic, if they chose to focus on the 10 seconds of pure enjoyment they experienced. And that acknowledgement alone, would probably carry that person's mood positively, throughout the day. And could it be that the person that got the 10 seconds of pure enjoyment, focused on his outcome, so that the 10 hours of felt like less than an hour. And because this person is great at focusing on the right things, he feels fulfilled for having a day where something good that happened that may even contribute to his growth as a person. In contrast, look at the person that wasted 10 hours sitting at his desk. He probably had a terrible day, because all he can remember is how long the 10 hours of doing nothing felt. And how the 10 hours felt like 20 hours because he was staring at the clock all day. And because he could not focus his energy at an activity, he makes no progress in anything and is not fulfilled. I know I'm just rambling, but wow, I understand why focus matters so much. It is everything from how you're making yourself feel now, later, and in the future.
So what I can take away from this is a question for myself.
What can I focus on right now to make myself feel great now, later, and in the future? I should be working for Tony Robbins. :)
Next: Time of Your Life (2 of 10)
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 16-21
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 16-21
Day 15: Time of Your Life (Prep)
I watched the Time of Your Life DVD. It was mostly a commercial about RPM Life Planner and Time of Your Life audio program. It was a bit cheesy. An actress pretending to be millionaire/billionaire businessness woman on a yacht? I'm sure it was meant to be humorous.
I've put together a OPA/RPM Life Planner. This took a few days of work. I thought instead of buying a $200 planner, I should just put it together myself and save some money, and maybe committing this effort will also mean that I commit myself to using this planner. It would be a shame to spend 2 days making my own planner, and spend less than time filling it (as I have in the past with planners I've bought.) Plus, I decided to make my own journals. On the top of the journals, I put 1 of 4 of my favorite quotes of all time.
"Sow a thought and you reap an action; sow an act and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Success comes from knowing that you did your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming." - John Wooden
"When you talk about something, it's a dream. When you envision it, it's exciting. When you plan it, it's possible. But, when you schedule it, it's real." - Anthony Robbins
"Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows." - Michael Landon
Can't wait to starting using my RPM Life Planner.
I've also listened to the following PowerTalks during this time:
Coach John Wooden
John Wooden lives and teaches simple but powerful values, if everyone adopted, will become great individuals. There is no shame in losing to a better opponent. There is no pride for winning against a lesser opponent. You can win and be proud every day of your life if you know you did your best on a daily basis.
Dr. Deepak Chopra
Some of the things he says seem too out there for me, but I don't disagree either. Having lived in Korea where there is free basic healthcare. From what I experienced, they focus on the root of the problem. And all I can remember in the US is the doctors focusing on the symptoms. So basically, you rely on medications for the rest of your life, and eventually you die of complications from the medicine like damage to the liver. Dr. Deepak Chopra is saying don't rely on these toxic medicines. The body can heal itself in most cases and has been doing it for as long as humans have existed. And if you're going to let your body do it on its own, you have to do it with the right state of mind because the brain triggers these responses. Amazing stuff.
Dr. Robbert Cialdini
Great for learning about powerful sales strategies. Stuff like this makes me realize how trying to reason with a good salesman is trying to argue with a Jedi master. You are so outmatched you don't even know what you're getting into. Learn some powerful strategies and use it to your advantage.
The Power of Life Metaphor
There are 2 major ways we use analogies or metaphors. There are good uses of analogies. For example, when you want to explain something, you can use an analogy with things that people are familiar with so they understand your point. There is also a bad way to use analogies. People use analogies to visualize their situation worse than it actually is. For example, someone will say, "it is as if that person ripped my heart out, and stomped on it." And that visualization makes you even feel even worse. It's like negative NLP. If that really happened, you'd be dead. And you're not dead.
Dr. Warren Farrell
This was really a fantastic listen if you want to understand the mechanics of a the modern courting process and marriage relationship. It is radically different than it has been 40 years ago. Why we have these rituals, beliefs, and why men start to feel like they are slaves to their jobs, and why women feel like they are slaves to their children. Basically, married men, to get more love from their families, they work harder, become slaves to their work, which creates further distance from the very thing he's trying to get. And because of this sacrifice, they feel that the family owes him for the sacrifice he's making. The wife, out of the desire to feel more love from the family, sacrifice their jobs and career, and enslave themselves to the family. And because the woman has sacrificed, they feel the man owes them for the sacrifice that they've made. They've both feel like they've trapped in a situation that just keeps on getting worse. To free each other from this there needs to be a mutual understanding of the plight of your partner.
Next: Time of Your Life (1 of 10)
Day 15: Time of Your Life (Prep)
I watched the Time of Your Life DVD. It was mostly a commercial about RPM Life Planner and Time of Your Life audio program. It was a bit cheesy. An actress pretending to be millionaire/billionaire businessness woman on a yacht? I'm sure it was meant to be humorous.
I've put together a OPA/RPM Life Planner. This took a few days of work. I thought instead of buying a $200 planner, I should just put it together myself and save some money, and maybe committing this effort will also mean that I commit myself to using this planner. It would be a shame to spend 2 days making my own planner, and spend less than time filling it (as I have in the past with planners I've bought.) Plus, I decided to make my own journals. On the top of the journals, I put 1 of 4 of my favorite quotes of all time.
"Sow a thought and you reap an action; sow an act and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Success comes from knowing that you did your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming." - John Wooden
"When you talk about something, it's a dream. When you envision it, it's exciting. When you plan it, it's possible. But, when you schedule it, it's real." - Anthony Robbins
"Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows." - Michael Landon
Can't wait to starting using my RPM Life Planner.
I've also listened to the following PowerTalks during this time:
Coach John Wooden
John Wooden lives and teaches simple but powerful values, if everyone adopted, will become great individuals. There is no shame in losing to a better opponent. There is no pride for winning against a lesser opponent. You can win and be proud every day of your life if you know you did your best on a daily basis.
Dr. Deepak Chopra
Some of the things he says seem too out there for me, but I don't disagree either. Having lived in Korea where there is free basic healthcare. From what I experienced, they focus on the root of the problem. And all I can remember in the US is the doctors focusing on the symptoms. So basically, you rely on medications for the rest of your life, and eventually you die of complications from the medicine like damage to the liver. Dr. Deepak Chopra is saying don't rely on these toxic medicines. The body can heal itself in most cases and has been doing it for as long as humans have existed. And if you're going to let your body do it on its own, you have to do it with the right state of mind because the brain triggers these responses. Amazing stuff.
Dr. Robbert Cialdini
Great for learning about powerful sales strategies. Stuff like this makes me realize how trying to reason with a good salesman is trying to argue with a Jedi master. You are so outmatched you don't even know what you're getting into. Learn some powerful strategies and use it to your advantage.
The Power of Life Metaphor
There are 2 major ways we use analogies or metaphors. There are good uses of analogies. For example, when you want to explain something, you can use an analogy with things that people are familiar with so they understand your point. There is also a bad way to use analogies. People use analogies to visualize their situation worse than it actually is. For example, someone will say, "it is as if that person ripped my heart out, and stomped on it." And that visualization makes you even feel even worse. It's like negative NLP. If that really happened, you'd be dead. And you're not dead.
Dr. Warren Farrell
This was really a fantastic listen if you want to understand the mechanics of a the modern courting process and marriage relationship. It is radically different than it has been 40 years ago. Why we have these rituals, beliefs, and why men start to feel like they are slaves to their jobs, and why women feel like they are slaves to their children. Basically, married men, to get more love from their families, they work harder, become slaves to their work, which creates further distance from the very thing he's trying to get. And because of this sacrifice, they feel that the family owes him for the sacrifice he's making. The wife, out of the desire to feel more love from the family, sacrifice their jobs and career, and enslave themselves to the family. And because the woman has sacrificed, they feel the man owes them for the sacrifice that they've made. They've both feel like they've trapped in a situation that just keeps on getting worse. To free each other from this there needs to be a mutual understanding of the plight of your partner.
Next: Time of Your Life (1 of 10)
Thursday, March 15, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 15
Day 15: Get the Edge (7 of 7)
The purpose of my life is to make my unique contribution to this world by giving my all. Through my contribution, I will get enormous recognition that will meet my needs for significance, grow by experiencing and conquering new challenges, and it will provide all the money that I'll ever need to give myself the time and the opportunity to innovate, plan, and execute all the while enjoying the process at it's fullest.
Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
26. With certainty and the right plan, you can achieve anything.
27. Your income is in direct proportion to your contribution.
Decisions/Musts (Strict rules that I live by):
10. Stop blaming everyone else. I must change now, no matter what. Do things daily to put change forward in motion to break the pattern.
11. "Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows." ― Michael Landon
12. If you violate rules your rules in life and win (positive reinforcement of action against your rules in life) , you lose your dignity and you will never win the game of life.
Next: Time of Your Life (Prep)
The purpose of my life is to make my unique contribution to this world by giving my all. Through my contribution, I will get enormous recognition that will meet my needs for significance, grow by experiencing and conquering new challenges, and it will provide all the money that I'll ever need to give myself the time and the opportunity to innovate, plan, and execute all the while enjoying the process at it's fullest.
Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
26. With certainty and the right plan, you can achieve anything.
27. Your income is in direct proportion to your contribution.
Decisions/Musts (Strict rules that I live by):
10. Stop blaming everyone else. I must change now, no matter what. Do things daily to put change forward in motion to break the pattern.
11. "Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows." ― Michael Landon
12. If you violate rules your rules in life and win (positive reinforcement of action against your rules in life) , you lose your dignity and you will never win the game of life.
Next: Time of Your Life (Prep)
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 14
Day 14: Get the Edge (6 of 7)
Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
26. With certainty and the right plan, you can achieve anything.
27. Your income is in direct proportion to your contribution.
Decisions/Musts (Strict rules that I live by):
10. Stop blaming everyone else. It is going to change now, no matter what. Do things daily to put change forward in motion to break the pattern.
Next: Get the Edge (6 of 7)
Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
26. With certainty and the right plan, you can achieve anything.
27. Your income is in direct proportion to your contribution.
Decisions/Musts (Strict rules that I live by):
10. Stop blaming everyone else. It is going to change now, no matter what. Do things daily to put change forward in motion to break the pattern.
Next: Get the Edge (6 of 7)
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 13
Day 13: Get the Edge (5 of 7)
Wow, this was an eye opening and mind blowing session. I've been pretty good at changing my state when I'm not experiencing negative emotions. But I've totally forgot about the lessons from this day of Get the Edge that I listened to 5 years ago.
Negative actions are actually "action signals."
What people end up doing when they experience negative emotions is just react, and usually not in the best way. The general rule of thumb on what you should do with action signals.
1. Identify and appreciate this negative emotion.
2. Clarify what I want or what do I want to feel?
3. Take action. Change perception or procedure.
1. Discomfort - Figure out what I want, and take action to get comfortable.
2. Fear - Get prepared so you can feel confident.
3a. Hurt Type 1 - It is the feeling of loss. Change the perception.
3b. Hurt Type 2 - Failed expectation you had from others. Change perception or change procedure.
3c. Hurt Type 3 - A violation of values. Change perception or procedure.
4. Anger - A violation of values (Amplified version of Hurt Type 3). Change perception or procedure.
5. Frustration - Be flexible, change your procedure because what you have been doing is not working.
6. Disappointment - Expected outcome seems no longer possible. Change perception, find new solution so that the outcome is again possible or change expectations.
7. Guilt or Regret - You've violated your own values. Take action so you never violate your own values again.
8. Inadequacy - Go work on yourself because you know you could be better but you are not there yet.
9. Overload, Overwhelm, Hopelessness, Depression - Get clear on what is the must and what is just desire in the situation. Prioritize, and take action.
10. Loneliness - Lacking social connection/love. Go get it.
Next: Get the Edge (6 of 7)
Wow, this was an eye opening and mind blowing session. I've been pretty good at changing my state when I'm not experiencing negative emotions. But I've totally forgot about the lessons from this day of Get the Edge that I listened to 5 years ago.
Negative actions are actually "action signals."
What people end up doing when they experience negative emotions is just react, and usually not in the best way. The general rule of thumb on what you should do with action signals.
1. Identify and appreciate this negative emotion.
2. Clarify what I want or what do I want to feel?
3. Take action. Change perception or procedure.
1. Discomfort - Figure out what I want, and take action to get comfortable.
2. Fear - Get prepared so you can feel confident.
3a. Hurt Type 1 - It is the feeling of loss. Change the perception.
3b. Hurt Type 2 - Failed expectation you had from others. Change perception or change procedure.
3c. Hurt Type 3 - A violation of values. Change perception or procedure.
4. Anger - A violation of values (Amplified version of Hurt Type 3). Change perception or procedure.
5. Frustration - Be flexible, change your procedure because what you have been doing is not working.
6. Disappointment - Expected outcome seems no longer possible. Change perception, find new solution so that the outcome is again possible or change expectations.
7. Guilt or Regret - You've violated your own values. Take action so you never violate your own values again.
8. Inadequacy - Go work on yourself because you know you could be better but you are not there yet.
9. Overload, Overwhelm, Hopelessness, Depression - Get clear on what is the must and what is just desire in the situation. Prioritize, and take action.
10. Loneliness - Lacking social connection/love. Go get it.
Next: Get the Edge (6 of 7)
Monday, March 12, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 12
Day 12: Get the Edge (4 of 7)
I've seen Fat Sick and Nearly Dead, and I got motivated to do a juice fast. Unfortunately, I did not go through with it. And it wasn't a juice fast. I just wanted to replace juice as one of my meals. Unfortunately, I just ended up drinking juice supplemental to all of my meals. And I didn't really see too many benefits from it. But listening to Get the Edge Day 4, it was all about the juice fast (and more). And he described something that I observed naturally. When I was doing a juice fast or similarly, when I forgot to drink coffee for a day and my body begins detoxifying, my body felt highly acidic. He explained why this happens, and it was a good insight. I'm always trying to understand what my body was doing. Anyway, when my body feels acidic, it feels so bad to a point where I feel that if someone hadn't invented Alkaseltzer, I wouldn't know how I would get through the day.
I've also been thinking maybe I should just get rid of coffee in my life. I feel it is an unnatural way of changing the biochemistry on my body. Probably not the best thing. But maybe not at the moment. I feel that it helps with my coding, and that a lot of my work seems to be done at a cafe these days. I wouldn't feel right about going to a cafe, and just taking up space without even buying coffee.
I was also thinking about what I heard from the Deepak Chopra PowerTalk the other day. How our minds control our body reactions. And could it be that my body becomes overly acidic, as learned responses from when I heard Get the Edge the first time about 4-5 years ago? I currently have problems with white sugar and processed flour where I get terrible acid reflux. Not all the time, but often when I ingest white sugar. Has this condition got worse over the last 5 years? Or has the mental conditioning just gotten stronger in the last 5 years? What is really going on here. I do remember having what felt like dehydration headaches in the past. I feel that I am in tune with my body much more so now than 5 years ago. Not sure what is correct. Is my belief giving me acid reflux? Or is it the sugar? Have I always had this condition and I just have a better understanding of how my body works? Or is this something I brought on myself? Wow, what a mindfuck. Both sound 100% right, but only one hypothesis is correct.
Next: Get the Edge (5 of 7)
I've seen Fat Sick and Nearly Dead, and I got motivated to do a juice fast. Unfortunately, I did not go through with it. And it wasn't a juice fast. I just wanted to replace juice as one of my meals. Unfortunately, I just ended up drinking juice supplemental to all of my meals. And I didn't really see too many benefits from it. But listening to Get the Edge Day 4, it was all about the juice fast (and more). And he described something that I observed naturally. When I was doing a juice fast or similarly, when I forgot to drink coffee for a day and my body begins detoxifying, my body felt highly acidic. He explained why this happens, and it was a good insight. I'm always trying to understand what my body was doing. Anyway, when my body feels acidic, it feels so bad to a point where I feel that if someone hadn't invented Alkaseltzer, I wouldn't know how I would get through the day.
I've also been thinking maybe I should just get rid of coffee in my life. I feel it is an unnatural way of changing the biochemistry on my body. Probably not the best thing. But maybe not at the moment. I feel that it helps with my coding, and that a lot of my work seems to be done at a cafe these days. I wouldn't feel right about going to a cafe, and just taking up space without even buying coffee.
I was also thinking about what I heard from the Deepak Chopra PowerTalk the other day. How our minds control our body reactions. And could it be that my body becomes overly acidic, as learned responses from when I heard Get the Edge the first time about 4-5 years ago? I currently have problems with white sugar and processed flour where I get terrible acid reflux. Not all the time, but often when I ingest white sugar. Has this condition got worse over the last 5 years? Or has the mental conditioning just gotten stronger in the last 5 years? What is really going on here. I do remember having what felt like dehydration headaches in the past. I feel that I am in tune with my body much more so now than 5 years ago. Not sure what is correct. Is my belief giving me acid reflux? Or is it the sugar? Have I always had this condition and I just have a better understanding of how my body works? Or is this something I brought on myself? Wow, what a mindfuck. Both sound 100% right, but only one hypothesis is correct.
Next: Get the Edge (5 of 7)
Sunday, March 11, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 11 (Part 2)
Day 11: Get the Edge (3 of 7) Part 2
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
25. If all you gained was knowledge, and you never used what you learned, you have failed to learn. Only true learning comes from action.
Next: Get the Edge (4 of 7)
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
25. If all you gained was knowledge, and you never used what you learned, you have failed to learn. Only true learning comes from action.
Next: Get the Edge (4 of 7)
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 11 (Part 1)
Day 11: Get the Edge (3 of 7) Part 1
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
24. The purpose of all relationships is to magnify the human experience.
Decisions/Musts (Strict rules that I live by):
9. I am not a person that unders how everything works but fails to practice what I preach. I hold myself to a higher standard than anyone else expects from me by walk ingthe walk. And not only do I walk it, I finish everything that I start because that is who I am.
Next: Get the Edge (3 of 7) Part 2
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
24. The purpose of all relationships is to magnify the human experience.
Decisions/Musts (Strict rules that I live by):
9. I am not a person that unders how everything works but fails to practice what I preach. I hold myself to a higher standard than anyone else expects from me by walk ingthe walk. And not only do I walk it, I finish everything that I start because that is who I am.
Next: Get the Edge (3 of 7) Part 2
Saturday, March 10, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 10 (Part 2)
Day 10: Get the Edge (2 of 7) Part 2
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
22. The hardest part of working out is getting to the gym. Once you get there, you have the momentum, and you realize what took so long to get there in the first place.
23. "Most people's lives are a direct reflection of the expectations of their peer group. Love your family, but pick your peer group." - Anthony Robbins
Next: Get the Edge (3 of 7)
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
22. The hardest part of working out is getting to the gym. Once you get there, you have the momentum, and you realize what took so long to get there in the first place.
23. "Most people's lives are a direct reflection of the expectations of their peer group. Love your family, but pick your peer group." - Anthony Robbins
Next: Get the Edge (3 of 7)
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 10 (Part 1)
Day 9: Get the Edge (2 of 7) Part 1
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
20. Live by a higher standard. I demand more from myself than anyone expects from me.
21. Don't use softners. Be honest with myself when I analyze if I won or lost. I can win every game if I give it my all. I don't win when I don't deserve it.
Decisions (Strict rules to live by):
7. There is nothing to be ashamed of about losing to an opponent. There is something to be ashamed about not doing the best that I could have done.
8. Never get in momentum of procrastonation. Always get in momentum of my goals at hand.
Next: Get the Edge (2 of 7) Part 2
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
20. Live by a higher standard. I demand more from myself than anyone expects from me.
21. Don't use softners. Be honest with myself when I analyze if I won or lost. I can win every game if I give it my all. I don't win when I don't deserve it.
Decisions (Strict rules to live by):
7. There is nothing to be ashamed of about losing to an opponent. There is something to be ashamed about not doing the best that I could have done.
8. Never get in momentum of procrastonation. Always get in momentum of my goals at hand.
Next: Get the Edge (2 of 7) Part 2
Friday, March 9, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 9
Day 9: Personal Power Classic (7 of 7)
I had a massive realization today. I used to be a RPM and Chunking specialist but I had no idea I was doing it. It was something I definitely learned from Get the Edge, but somehow I had dissassociated it with RPM and Chunging. But I believe that it is a large reason why I was able to do so much when I started my last business. And not doing it, is the reason why I feel like the smallest tasks today feel like the largest tasks. For example I can drop off a package at the post office, and I feel like I've done my big deed for the day.
So basically, chunk it. Look at what people would normally look at as complex tasks, but look at it as simple tasks. And if you really believe in it, you'll just get it done with momentum. After I've chunked it, use RPM. RPM is just a specific way of using the power of questions to get tasks done and accomplish goals.
RPM is basically:
What do I really want? Add "and enjoy the process".
Why do I want it?
What must I do to make this happen?
I used to do this all the time. It is again how I do things.
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
19. Use the power of questions. Ask and you shall receive.
Decisions (Strict rules to live by):
6. Chunk it, and use RPM to not get overwhelmed by the simplest tasks, and do seemingly complex tasks accomplished quickly.
These last 2 days have been amazing. I've been looking for what used to make me so productive, and why I have not been. And I believe I found it. Maybe there's more!
Next: Get the Edge (2 of 7)
I had a massive realization today. I used to be a RPM and Chunking specialist but I had no idea I was doing it. It was something I definitely learned from Get the Edge, but somehow I had dissassociated it with RPM and Chunging. But I believe that it is a large reason why I was able to do so much when I started my last business. And not doing it, is the reason why I feel like the smallest tasks today feel like the largest tasks. For example I can drop off a package at the post office, and I feel like I've done my big deed for the day.
So basically, chunk it. Look at what people would normally look at as complex tasks, but look at it as simple tasks. And if you really believe in it, you'll just get it done with momentum. After I've chunked it, use RPM. RPM is just a specific way of using the power of questions to get tasks done and accomplish goals.
RPM is basically:
What do I really want? Add "and enjoy the process".
Why do I want it?
What must I do to make this happen?
I used to do this all the time. It is again how I do things.
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
19. Use the power of questions. Ask and you shall receive.
Decisions (Strict rules to live by):
6. Chunk it, and use RPM to not get overwhelmed by the simplest tasks, and do seemingly complex tasks accomplished quickly.
These last 2 days have been amazing. I've been looking for what used to make me so productive, and why I have not been. And I believe I found it. Maybe there's more!
Next: Get the Edge (2 of 7)
Thursday, March 8, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 8
Day 8: Personal Power Classic (6 of 7)
Breakthrough alert! I've listened to "The Driving Force" many times which was a part of the bonus PowerTalk at the end of Personal Power II. I understood needs 1-4 (Stability, Variety, Connection/Love, Significance) very well. But I never truly understood needs 5-6, Growth and Contribution. I always thought happiness was the endgame to everything that we do. This is how I understood life, but I had a breakthrough realization just recently. Life is not about being happy all the time. The search for happiness and get out of being unhappy (aka the need to experience pleasure and avoid pain Tony would say) is what drives us. As happiness is concerned, only 2 things matter. Growth and LC=BP. To say life is good or that you are happy with an aspect of your life, your life conditions needs to equal your blueprint (LC = BP). So for example, if your blueprint for a successful family is living in a particular house, and having x amount of kids, and have it be a particular way) and you have that, then you can say life is good. And you would say that you are happy. If that was your blueprint, but it is not what you have, then you won't be happy. The other thing to happiness is that LC might equal BP now, but you won't sustain your happiness unless your life keeps growing and improving. So no matter how good your life is, you don't keep growing as a person, or your life doesn't improve in some way, then you will eventually be unhappy. Until just recently I didn't understand the importance of growth. But now I see that growth is one of the highest priorities in life. If you're happy, you will be unhappy in the future if you don't grow so should plan your life around growing as a person. And you shouldn't just plan your life around it, you should lead others in your life so that they are growing as well. With all that said, I do not understand need 6, contribution. Sure, contribution sounds like a good idea, but I do not feel that in my heart to be one of the basic human needs. Maybe it is a higher level of need. After I have the basic needs met 1-5, maybe contribution will feel like a basic need for life. I'm sure I'll get there as I continue this journey through personal development. It took me 6 years from hearing that growth is a need to realizing it at a level where I see it like seeing the code in the Matrix.
In conclusion, if you are not happy, it is because your life conditions doesn't equal how you pictured your life to be at the current time. So go out and get it. If you get to a point where your LC = BP, then plan your life around growth. It could be on anything. A skill, your job, money, social network, spirituality, knowledge, etc.
Breakthrough alert! I've listened to "The Driving Force" many times which was a part of the bonus PowerTalk at the end of Personal Power II. I understood needs 1-4 (Stability, Variety, Connection/Love, Significance) very well. But I never truly understood needs 5-6, Growth and Contribution. I always thought happiness was the endgame to everything that we do. This is how I understood life, but I had a breakthrough realization just recently. Life is not about being happy all the time. The search for happiness and get out of being unhappy (aka the need to experience pleasure and avoid pain Tony would say) is what drives us. As happiness is concerned, only 2 things matter. Growth and LC=BP. To say life is good or that you are happy with an aspect of your life, your life conditions needs to equal your blueprint (LC = BP). So for example, if your blueprint for a successful family is living in a particular house, and having x amount of kids, and have it be a particular way) and you have that, then you can say life is good. And you would say that you are happy. If that was your blueprint, but it is not what you have, then you won't be happy. The other thing to happiness is that LC might equal BP now, but you won't sustain your happiness unless your life keeps growing and improving. So no matter how good your life is, you don't keep growing as a person, or your life doesn't improve in some way, then you will eventually be unhappy. Until just recently I didn't understand the importance of growth. But now I see that growth is one of the highest priorities in life. If you're happy, you will be unhappy in the future if you don't grow so should plan your life around growing as a person. And you shouldn't just plan your life around it, you should lead others in your life so that they are growing as well. With all that said, I do not understand need 6, contribution. Sure, contribution sounds like a good idea, but I do not feel that in my heart to be one of the basic human needs. Maybe it is a higher level of need. After I have the basic needs met 1-5, maybe contribution will feel like a basic need for life. I'm sure I'll get there as I continue this journey through personal development. It took me 6 years from hearing that growth is a need to realizing it at a level where I see it like seeing the code in the Matrix.
In conclusion, if you are not happy, it is because your life conditions doesn't equal how you pictured your life to be at the current time. So go out and get it. If you get to a point where your LC = BP, then plan your life around growth. It could be on anything. A skill, your job, money, social network, spirituality, knowledge, etc.
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
17. Plan your life, and lives of people in your life, around growth.
18. Turn class 2 experiences to class 1 experiences.
Next: Personal Power Classic (7 of 7)
I'll probably touch more on this later, but I realized I've kinda forgot about this matrix. I should be evaluating things I do to maximize my productivity. I think I'm mature now that I no longer do class 4 experiences. But I'm sure I do class 3 experiences often. But as long as I am conscious about the experience being a class 3, I have the will power to stop myself. But to truly become productive is to turn class 2 experiences to class 1 experiences. The best example for this is exercise. And I'm sure people have applied this to working, studying, and even household chores.
Experience Class Matrix
| Class 1 | Class 2 | Class 3 | Class 4 | |
| Feels good | Yes | No | Yes | No |
| Is good for you | Yes | Yes | No | No |
| Is good for others | Yes | Yes | No | No |
| Serves the greater good | Yes | Yes | No | No |
Next: Personal Power Classic (7 of 7)
Wednesday, March 7, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 7
Day 7: Personal Power Classic (5 of 7)
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
16. Set goals 2x a year. Review goals once a month. Review top goals daily.
Next: Personal Power Classic (6 of 7)
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
16. Set goals 2x a year. Review goals once a month. Review top goals daily.
Next: Personal Power Classic (6 of 7)
Tuesday, March 6, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 6
Day 6: Personal Power Classic (4 of 7)
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
15. 3 steps to change. Get leverage, interrupt the pattern, condition new behavior and reward.
Decisions (Strict rules to live by):
4. Whenever I want to change any behavior, get leverage, interrupt the pattern, condition new behavior.
5. Above my goals, at the moment, my skill in creating change by interrupting the pattern, and conditioning a new condition is higher priority. Focus on this because it is higher priority.
Next: Personal Power Classic (5 of 7)
For effective and lasting change, I have been good at finding the leverage, but what I have not done in the past was to interrupt the pattern, and condition the new behavior. In the past, I did not completely understand these steps, but now I do. Don't make this one of those things where I know how to do something but I don't do it. This is one of the key things to success. Interrupt my pattern and condition the new behavior. Not just for this assignment, but for the rest of my life.
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
15. 3 steps to change. Get leverage, interrupt the pattern, condition new behavior and reward.
Decisions (Strict rules to live by):
4. Whenever I want to change any behavior, get leverage, interrupt the pattern, condition new behavior.
5. Above my goals, at the moment, my skill in creating change by interrupting the pattern, and conditioning a new condition is higher priority. Focus on this because it is higher priority.
Next: Personal Power Classic (5 of 7)
Monday, March 5, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 5
Day 5: Personal Power Classic (3 of 7)
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
12. Change a core belief, and I can make many behaviors for myself for the positive. Find core beliefs to change rather than trying to change behavior.
13. Every decision, whether it be small or big, will affect and direct our lives.
14. Change my neuro-associations to things that I associate pain to.
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
12. Change a core belief, and I can make many behaviors for myself for the positive. Find core beliefs to change rather than trying to change behavior.
13. Every decision, whether it be small or big, will affect and direct our lives.
14. Change my neuro-associations to things that I associate pain to.
Next: Personal Power Classic (4 of 7)
Sunday, March 4, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 4
Day 4: Personal Power Classic (2 of 7)
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
11. As much as I am motivated, pain (aka fear) is stopping me. Fear is the only reason, and it is there. Find what the fear is. Associate pain to not following through and pleasure to following through.
Next: Personal Power Classic (3 of 7)
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
11. As much as I am motivated, pain (aka fear) is stopping me. Fear is the only reason, and it is there. Find what the fear is. Associate pain to not following through and pleasure to following through.
Next: Personal Power Classic (3 of 7)
Saturday, March 3, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 3
Day 3: Personal Power Classic (1 of 7)
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
4. Whatever has happened in the past, it does not matter. The past does not equal the future. The future is dictated by the action you take right now.
5. Make decision first. Then take action.
6. Make small changes daily, and it will lead to exponential growth. Eventually, what seemed impossible will become effortless.
7. The clearer the vision, the clearer the goals, the clearer the actions.
8. Spend 5% of your energy on the problem, and spend 95% of your energy on the solution.
9. When you schedule it, it is reality.
10. Problems equal challenges. Challenges are gifts that are given to you for a chance to grow. (Same as #2)
Decisions (Strict rules to live by):
1. I will no longer let my problems dictate my life. My life will be dictated by consistent actions and progress towards exactly what I want out of life.
2. Never again will I be content with less than what I am capable of.
3. Make one commitment a day and grow exponentially.
Next: Personal Power Classic (2 of 7)
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
4. Whatever has happened in the past, it does not matter. The past does not equal the future. The future is dictated by the action you take right now.
5. Make decision first. Then take action.
6. Make small changes daily, and it will lead to exponential growth. Eventually, what seemed impossible will become effortless.
7. The clearer the vision, the clearer the goals, the clearer the actions.
8. Spend 5% of your energy on the problem, and spend 95% of your energy on the solution.
9. When you schedule it, it is reality.
10. Problems equal challenges. Challenges are gifts that are given to you for a chance to grow. (Same as #2)
Decisions (Strict rules to live by):
1. I will no longer let my problems dictate my life. My life will be dictated by consistent actions and progress towards exactly what I want out of life.
2. Never again will I be content with less than what I am capable of.
3. Make one commitment a day and grow exponentially.
Next: Personal Power Classic (2 of 7)
Friday, March 2, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 2
Day 2: Get the Edge (1 of 7)
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
4. I will no longer let my problems dictate my life. My life will be dictated by consistent actions and progress towards exactly what I want out of life.
Next: Personal Power Classic (1 of 7)*
*The "Get the Edge" program suggests after day 1 of "Get the Edge", that you complete 7 days of "Personal Power Classic", then return to day 2 of "Get the Edge".
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
4. I will no longer let my problems dictate my life. My life will be dictated by consistent actions and progress towards exactly what I want out of life.
Next: Personal Power Classic (1 of 7)*
*The "Get the Edge" program suggests after day 1 of "Get the Edge", that you complete 7 days of "Personal Power Classic", then return to day 2 of "Get the Edge".
Thursday, March 1, 2012
Anthony Robbins Diet: Day 1
What is the Anthony Robbins' diet? It is something I've made up, and something I've been planning on doing. And it has nothing to do with nutrition, physical exercise, or calories. It is about taking an hour every day to listen to his material, taking his ideas, and committing to live by them wholeheartedly during the course of a diet. And just like a regular diet, some changes you make to your life stick, and some changes revert back if you lose focus. But at the end, you still emerge a better self, and you make incredible gains during the time you're on this diet. And if you're lucky, the changes you make during the diet may become a permanent part of you and you never have to go back. There is nothing to lose and everything to gain. Why not directly work on yourself.
I'm a big believer in Anthony Robbins' ideas. I respect him immensely, but I don't idolize him in any way. The collection of the wisdom he's gathered by putting himself out there and learning by meeting incredible people, the knowledge he preaches are much bigger than him. Just like a normal person, I hear great ideas and wisdom all the time, but how often do I practice it? Imagine, when you hear a belief someone lives by, but instead of taking it lightly where it may or may not shape your beliefs. you consciously used that as a chisel and carved it into you. Imagine the person that would emerge after that process. That's what this journey is going to be for me.
If I cheat on this diet, for example I go against something I said I was no longer gonna do, it doesn't mean I failed. I just need to take notice, and just keep finding ways to stay on track and get side tracked less often. Metaphorically, it just means that I just need to keep chiseling away more definition.
I absolutely believe we only have one chance in life. We don't reincarnate. And technology to transplant our brains into a new body won't be available in our lifetime. We have one chance to experience everything all the great things that this wonderful world has to offer us. It would be an absolute shame to not do everything in your power so that you can experience everything you want to experience in your lifetime.
Currently, I feel that I'm being lazy because I'm not doing much and the smallest tasks feel like the largest tasks. All these tapes are showing me that successful people didn't get to where they are now by being lazy. The hardest working people doesn't necessarily mean they will amount to great successes. And just like I've been a motivated powerhouse of productivity in the past, instead of guilting myself into working hard, instead, get to the root of the problem by getting motivated and guiding myself towards that motivation so that I'm working 18 hours a day 7 days a week motivated and happy that I'm doing it.
Plan
1. Anthony Robbins A&E biography
2. Get the edge & Personal Power Classic (A core self-improvement course)
3. Start using RPM (time management & planning tool)
4. Time of your Life (To get better on managing time)
5. Financial Freedom (Get motivated to do business, and get clear about reasons and goals)
6. Ultimate Business Mastery (video) (So I set-up a better foundation for the company I create)
7. New Money Masters (model the masters of the type of business I want to do)
8. Improve Physical Stamina to work more (so I can work longer hours and have more energy, ultimately so I can be more productive.)
9. Work on Presentation Skills (to do a killer presentation for funding)
10. Work on Leadership Skills (when I make contacts, send the right impression)
Notes: I would like to fit Personal Power II in there somewhere because I believe that it has fundamentals that would help me accomplish everything that I'm doing with all the other courses, yet I don't want to start doing the plan I've created myself a month later, after doing something a course that I've already done but just need a refresher on. I think I'll just do PPII as something on the side, but with my full attention.
Today's Material: (Video) Anthony Robbins - A&E Biography
So as just like what you should do before taking anyone's word wholeheartedly, it is great to get to know about the person. It is so that he establishes more influence for me to believe what he is saying wholeheartedly. That is why I decided to watch this first.
Previously, as much as I've heard Tony's life stories through his material, I never knew much of his upbringing. It was great to learn about how challenging his life was, and how it mirrored my life in many ways. I did find it inspirational that he faced serious adult problems as a teenager, and without him going through that painful process, he would not be the person he would be today. Again, even through a biography produced by someone else, he tells you that he conquered the same problems I am having as a 30 year old with a college degree. He solved these problems as a teenager without having yet graduated high school. I have no excuse to let this problem dictate my life.
I do notice this biography is definitely outdated. I know that Anthony Robbins' is divorced and remarried. The biography was done a few years before his divorce. This doesn't bother me at all. Again, his information is not gospel. He may have the best ideas on a wide array of things, but his information is the best information available today, and not necessarily the best information that you can get tomorrow. I also always felt that his information about the understandings of relationships and chemistry with the opposite sex was not his focus, especially before his divorce. He's always put his career before his relationships. He personally never had to face a problem of finding opportunities for meeting people. That itself is a challenges many. And for this even material from Eben Pagan is light years better than what Anthony Robbins can provide. But after his divorce, I do notice he's absolutely made it a study of how to keep a good relationship, and released numerous programs after this with the help from other relationship experts. I'm sure there is a lot of great info in there and I'll give these a listen too, but after listening to everything else.
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
1. People with little to no resources have faced, conquered, and accomplished more than you. You have no excuse to let any problem get in your way. Do whatever it takes.
2. Embrace your life's challenge and be thankful of this opportunity to grow. If everything was easy and handed to you, you would never become the man that you can become.
3. Instead of working hard for the sake of working hard, get to the root of the problem by getting motivated and finding something to motivate myself.
Tomorrow: Get the Edge (1 of 7).
I'm a big believer in Anthony Robbins' ideas. I respect him immensely, but I don't idolize him in any way. The collection of the wisdom he's gathered by putting himself out there and learning by meeting incredible people, the knowledge he preaches are much bigger than him. Just like a normal person, I hear great ideas and wisdom all the time, but how often do I practice it? Imagine, when you hear a belief someone lives by, but instead of taking it lightly where it may or may not shape your beliefs. you consciously used that as a chisel and carved it into you. Imagine the person that would emerge after that process. That's what this journey is going to be for me.
If I cheat on this diet, for example I go against something I said I was no longer gonna do, it doesn't mean I failed. I just need to take notice, and just keep finding ways to stay on track and get side tracked less often. Metaphorically, it just means that I just need to keep chiseling away more definition.
I absolutely believe we only have one chance in life. We don't reincarnate. And technology to transplant our brains into a new body won't be available in our lifetime. We have one chance to experience everything all the great things that this wonderful world has to offer us. It would be an absolute shame to not do everything in your power so that you can experience everything you want to experience in your lifetime.
Currently, I feel that I'm being lazy because I'm not doing much and the smallest tasks feel like the largest tasks. All these tapes are showing me that successful people didn't get to where they are now by being lazy. The hardest working people doesn't necessarily mean they will amount to great successes. And just like I've been a motivated powerhouse of productivity in the past, instead of guilting myself into working hard, instead, get to the root of the problem by getting motivated and guiding myself towards that motivation so that I'm working 18 hours a day 7 days a week motivated and happy that I'm doing it.
Plan
1. Anthony Robbins A&E biography
2. Get the edge & Personal Power Classic (A core self-improvement course)
3. Start using RPM (time management & planning tool)
4. Time of your Life (To get better on managing time)
5. Financial Freedom (Get motivated to do business, and get clear about reasons and goals)
6. Ultimate Business Mastery (video) (So I set-up a better foundation for the company I create)
7. New Money Masters (model the masters of the type of business I want to do)
8. Improve Physical Stamina to work more (so I can work longer hours and have more energy, ultimately so I can be more productive.)
9. Work on Presentation Skills (to do a killer presentation for funding)
10. Work on Leadership Skills (when I make contacts, send the right impression)
Notes: I would like to fit Personal Power II in there somewhere because I believe that it has fundamentals that would help me accomplish everything that I'm doing with all the other courses, yet I don't want to start doing the plan I've created myself a month later, after doing something a course that I've already done but just need a refresher on. I think I'll just do PPII as something on the side, but with my full attention.
Today's Material: (Video) Anthony Robbins - A&E Biography
So as just like what you should do before taking anyone's word wholeheartedly, it is great to get to know about the person. It is so that he establishes more influence for me to believe what he is saying wholeheartedly. That is why I decided to watch this first.
Previously, as much as I've heard Tony's life stories through his material, I never knew much of his upbringing. It was great to learn about how challenging his life was, and how it mirrored my life in many ways. I did find it inspirational that he faced serious adult problems as a teenager, and without him going through that painful process, he would not be the person he would be today. Again, even through a biography produced by someone else, he tells you that he conquered the same problems I am having as a 30 year old with a college degree. He solved these problems as a teenager without having yet graduated high school. I have no excuse to let this problem dictate my life.
I do notice this biography is definitely outdated. I know that Anthony Robbins' is divorced and remarried. The biography was done a few years before his divorce. This doesn't bother me at all. Again, his information is not gospel. He may have the best ideas on a wide array of things, but his information is the best information available today, and not necessarily the best information that you can get tomorrow. I also always felt that his information about the understandings of relationships and chemistry with the opposite sex was not his focus, especially before his divorce. He's always put his career before his relationships. He personally never had to face a problem of finding opportunities for meeting people. That itself is a challenges many. And for this even material from Eben Pagan is light years better than what Anthony Robbins can provide. But after his divorce, I do notice he's absolutely made it a study of how to keep a good relationship, and released numerous programs after this with the help from other relationship experts. I'm sure there is a lot of great info in there and I'll give these a listen too, but after listening to everything else.
List - Beliefs to live by (I will keep adding to this list)
1. People with little to no resources have faced, conquered, and accomplished more than you. You have no excuse to let any problem get in your way. Do whatever it takes.
2. Embrace your life's challenge and be thankful of this opportunity to grow. If everything was easy and handed to you, you would never become the man that you can become.
3. Instead of working hard for the sake of working hard, get to the root of the problem by getting motivated and finding something to motivate myself.
Tomorrow: Get the Edge (1 of 7).
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